Approaching someone is good. But there’s this approach-anxiety that kills your confidence top approach.
Approach-anxiety isn’t uncommon. It’s completely normal and everyone has this stupid feeling. It’s “hard-wired” into human beings’ brains to have the fear of approaching.
Funny, right? You’ll feel excited to go inside the brutal fighting in the roadside where you’ve 90% chance of getting beaten up, but you’ll feel dead when you try aporoaching someone, where you’ve 50% chance of getting rejected.
But don’t worry, I’ve got some steps for you!
Step #1: Increase Confidence Level
If you’re insecure or not confident, chances are you might be experiencing approach-anxiety.
- Next time you feel this stupid little anxiety entering your brain, just imagine yourself turning into a statue made up of diamond. Give the diamond an attractive color. Imagine your size increasing and with the increase in each inch, imagine your confidence increasing.
Step #2: The 3-Second Rule
If you see someone, approach him/her under three seconds.
- After three seconds, your brain starts to come up with non-existant excuses and confidence-shattering questions and situations like: “What if he/she rejects me?” “What’ll happen if I can’t make it?” “OMG, he/she’s so out if my league!” “He/she might’ve a girlfriend/boyfriend” and sometimes, “He/she’s a loser… I can’t waste my time on them.”
Step #3: The Final Approach
Now approach them. Just do it. You won’t get kidnapped to another planet. No, you’ll not die. No, you’ll NOT become a loser. Don’t worry, just do it!
- Go over to the person and ask this: “Hey, I just had a question, mind if I ask?” Keep a bright and non-awkward smile on your face. They may agree or reject, but don’t take it personally.
- If they agree, ask, “What’s the best way to start the day, according to you?” And proceed the conversation.
- If they disagree, smile and say, “Ah, okay!”
That’s all folks!